I'm not sure I fully subscribe to the "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you." I sit here finding myself asking the true purpose of this statement? Is it really that fulfilling? If so, then why is it so satisfying to get revenge, even in it's smallest measure? Just the thought, the knowing that someone you absolutely despise is miserable can bring a smile to your face. Is this evil? Or is it just human nature to laugh at the folly of others?
I find that I have tried to be kind, and giving, and loving to others, opened my heart and home and wallet to those in need, only to be trampled on, pissed on and lied about. I really shouldn't care about those people who believe the lies, they are worth nothing to me, so are the people telling them. But when I feel justified in my actions and behavior that old adage comes to mind. But I've DONE that, and I still get shit on. I'm not that good and noticing when people are liars and fakes. I try and trust everyone, but each time I get burned, I learn a hard lesson, I stop trusting so much.
These recent turn of events made me realize that a little revenge can be sweet, as long as it's not hurting anybody. I have to teach my children to be tough, to not take crap from people, and to trust their instincts. Something that I didn't have. I was taught to fear, to listen to authority and to do as I was told, to not question. I don't want to make the same mistakes with my kids. I'm still learning too.
But that begs the question then, is there a better philosophy to live by? I know I have come up with many but none jump to the forefront of my mind. Simply to live simple, enjoy the small joys as well as the big ones, try not to sweat the small stuff and roll with the punches, and just put the fakers out of your mind and out of your life.
I live by the guide that people will hurt you, people will say things about you, but those people and the people who listen to them do not know you, and in the grand scheme of things do not matter to you. If they hurt you by other means (prevent you from getting a job/or cause problems with neighbors or family) get the authorities involved. Don't take matters into your own hands and keep your chin up.
Losers lose, and fakers are fake. Be true to yourself and the ones you love.
